HL and daddy

I think, I hope, that HL has come to a turning point with his daddy. Since Hubby went back to school and has been home with the boys, HL has been very attached to mommy. It was commonplace to hear HL bellow "not you, daddy, I want mommy!" Or even "go away daddy". But this evening, HL changed his tune. I tried to help him and was told "no, I want daddy." It sometimes takes HL a while (months even) to adjust to new environs, so I'm glad to see that he's finally transitioning to daddy being the main caregiver. I came home from work with a terrible headache today and spent pretty much the entire evening in bed. It gave me an opportunity to hear Hubby and HL interact without my presence, and, I must say that listening to those two really made me smile. Hubby did an excellent job of maintaining his expectations in a rather compassionate way that HL responded well to. They got along beautifully. I suppose it is always that way when I'm not around, but all I get to see is when HL is anti-daddy because I AM around (obviously). Hubby has told me they do well together, but it was great to hear it first-hand. Sitting here thinking about it, I wonder if it's not so much that HL is anti-daddy when I'm around as it is that he's pro-mommy. I know that I have become more lenient since working full-time because I just don't see my boys enough. Don't get me wrong, I still have my expectations, but I think HL does get away with more when he comes to me. I'm more willing to help him dress, for instance, when daddy expects him to do it himself. And at bedtime, I relent when HL asks me to lay down with him- which brings up another whole issue... I know that HL is able to go to sleep on his own- he does it for daddy all the time. But when he asks me to lay down with him, I can't resist the opportunity to snuggle. Yes, it occasionally causes issues (sometimes he'd rather visit with me than sleep), but they can be dealt with. The one thing that bothers me about it is that when he stays with relatives, he expects someone to lay down with him- which they don't usually realize. So to our relatives who take HL overnight: I'm very sorry that he is needy at bedtime, but I'm just not ready to stop the cuddling- I simply love it too much!